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My Fall Lineup, One of These May Surprise You!

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My Fall Lineup, One of These May Surprise You!

Autumn is in full swing, and here at SimplyAlign we’ve got some fantastic fall events lined up! Get ready to embrace the season of change and growth with these upcoming events that promise to be educational, inspiring, and tons of fun! Read to the end and let me know which, if any surprises you!

1. SimplyAlign Refresher Course

When: November 9th & 10th

Where: In Person, St. George, Utah

Who: For anyone who has attended a 4-day SimplyAlign Training

Go here to Register for Refresher

Calling all SimplyAlign/SimplyHealed/CalycoHealing Training graduates! The Refresher Course is your invitation to deepen your practice, discover fresh insights, uncover new possibilities within the SA menu items, and rekindle your passion for this transformative work. Join us live to reconnect with old friends, ground yourself in the fundamentals, and embark on a renewed journey towards balance and alignment.

EARLY BIRD Special: Register for the Refresher & get the full-day Saturday Align Your Shine workshop too!

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2. Align Your Shine – 1 Day Workshop

When: Saturday, November 11th

Where: In Person – St. George, Utah

Who: Aspiring Growth Seekers and Anyone Who Wants to Shine Brighter!

Go here to Register for Align Your Shine 1-Day Event

Join us for a transformative day packed with empowering activities and insights. Through engaging workshops, insightful talks, and interactive activities (Sound Bowls anyone?), you’ll learn to embrace positivity, and design a happier, more fulfilling life. Get ready to radiate YOUR unique shine to the world

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3. SimplyAlign cerTrac Training

When: December 5th – 8th

Where: Online

Who: Anyone who is ready to learn the beautiful art of the SimplyAlign Method. If you are passionate about holistic well-being and want to enhance your own life, help family members, and/or offer professional services that align with your values of integrity, and reflect your commitment to grounded, compassionate healing practices, this is the course for you.

Go here to learn more & to register for SimplyAlign Training

The SimplyAlign Method is a time-tested and results-driven approach to energy healing that empowers people to overcome emotional roadblocks and tap into their true potential. It’s a simple, yet powerful technique that involves clearing out limiting beliefs, ancestral baggage, and negative self-talk that’s holding you back. By addressing these underlying issues, the SimplyAlign Method creates space for personal growth and self-discovery, allowing you to connect with your best self. Experience a practical approach to advanced energy healing, free from mysticism and easy to learn. Suitable for everyone, from beginners to seasoned practitioners.

EARLY BIRD Pricing and Bonuses are on the website for a limited time only!

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4. My New Podcast!

It’s almost ready, but I’m keeping the name under wraps until I’m ready to officially launch, and I’ll FOR SURE tell you at that time!

I’ve felt very inspired to create this, and I’ve designed it to be a ray of sunshine in our cloudy world; to add some light to our sometimes heavy and often dim world. There is so much good to talk about, let’s celebrate that! My goal with this podcast is to provide a weekly pick-me-up and offer a dose of encouragement to those in search of happiness and motivation…which seems to be most of us recently.

When: Coming in mid-October.

Where: Once launched, you’ll be able to find it on all major podcast platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, and more.

Who: This podcast is for anyone looking to add more positivity, inspiration, and joy to their life!

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So there you have it! I think I’ve got something for everyone here, so I hope you’ll join me for one or more of these events.

Mark your calendar and get ready for a season of growth and transformation! And stay tuned for more details on each event.

I can’t wait to share this exciting season with you.

Feel free to reply to this email and let me know if any surprised you and what you’re up to this fall, I love hearing from you!

Much Love,

Carolyn Cooper

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Love Yourself More - Energy Healing

5 Daily Strategies to Love Yourself More

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5 Daily Strategies to Love Yourself More

I was recently asked an interesting question: “Can you help someone to love themself…and is that even possible through SimplyAlign or coaching?”

My answer to that (and what I’m sharing with you today) is -yes it’s possible, and yes, over the 25+ years that I’ve done energy work, and now coaching, I’ve worked with many clients who struggle with self-love and self-acceptance. It seems to be something that affects most of us to one degree or another at different times in our lives. Self love is a critical aspect of any healing process, because having it, or the lack of it, ripples out to all other areas of our lives.

So, whether I’m coaching, or clearing energy with SimplyAlign, here are some strategies I use to help my clients connect to themselves more deeply so they can live and love whole-heartedly. As you read through this list, check in with yourself that you are getting ‘enough’ of each of these, and I invite you to identify one loving thing that you can do for yourself in the next few days:

  1. Self-care: I know we hear it all the time, but one of the best ways to show love to yourself is through self-care. I encourage my clients to prioritize self-care activities such as exercise, meditation, or taking a relaxing bath. When we set aside time for ourselves, we are sending a message to the subconscious mind that we are deserving of that time, love, and care.
  2. Self-compassion: Often, clients who struggle with self-love have a harsh inner critic that constantly berates them, and most often this began in childhood. In addition to releasing any adverse energetic vibration of childhood experiences and/or generational issues, I also teach my clients self-compassion techniques, such as talking to themselves the way they would talk to a friend or visualizing themselves being held in a loving embrace. These techniques help clients cultivate a more compassionate inner dialogue.
  3. Explore limiting beliefs: In general, people who struggle with self-love have underlying limiting beliefs that are holding them back. With SimplyAlign, it’s easy to quickly get to the root causes and release the low-vibrations without having to re-live the entire story. But I also help my clients follow the thread to identify their beliefs and reframe them into a more positive and empowering story. It’s a step toward resilience in the process of connecting with your own heart.
  4. Use positive affirmations: It’s so true that the words we ‘declare’ matter. I find that when asked the right questions, my clients are really skillful at coming up with powerful, customized affirmations they can repeat to themselves daily. These personalized affirmations help to reprogram their subconscious mind with positive beliefs and thoughts, which can help to increase self-love and self-acceptance.
  5. Focus on strengths: I love helping my clients and students see their own light that they may not even be aware of, or have lost sight of. I encourage them to focus on their strengths and accomplishments rather than their perceived shortcomings. And of course by focusing on what they do well and what they have achieved, they can develop a greater sense of their own capacity and self-love.

These five strategies can be practiced everyday to develop a greater sense of self-compassion and self-acceptance.

At the beginning of this post (and since we can all use a stronger, consistent connection to our own heart), I invited you to identify one loving thing from the above list that you can do for yourself in the next few days, and, pro-tip: put a reminder on your calendar to increase accountability and follow through, yay!

As you add more loving thoughts and actions into your life, you’ll find it crowds out the self-limiting thoughts and behaviors, and aligns you with the peace that comes from giving yourself permission to love yourself.

These strategies above work well, AND…if you’re ready to learn how to clean up and revitalize your energy field in a way that is even more streamlined, join us for the next SimplyAlign Training – it’s all LIVE with me online, and includes access for a full year to a HUGE online course -with all the recordings, plus many additional videos and teachings.

You’ll learn how to do energy work for yourself, friends, family, clients (if you choose), and yes, of course your pets!

All in a way that is so simple, yet profoundly effective. Learning SimplyAlign isn’t hard, it’s an intuitive and graceful process that anyone can learn!

SimplyAlign Training:
April 25-28, 2023
Online!

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SimplyAlign Refresher

If you’ve attended in the past (CalycoHealing, SimplyHealed, or SimplyAlign), don’t miss the REFRESHER Course: March 9/10th.

It’s all online so you can join from anywhere!

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7 Gifts: Are you interested?

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7 Gifts: Are you interested?

In 1996 when I began practicing energy work on friends, family, then clients, I used what I’d been taught through classes and whatever few books were published on it at the time.

But I also had to learn to rely on my own intuition, and trust God to give me inspiration as I did the work.

It was important to me to learn the cleanest, purest and least complicated way of doing this type of work.

When I started doing this work, I was so happy to be able to help clients with whatever challenges they faced in their lives.

As a bonus, over the years I’ve seen how much growth also comes to the students who train to be SimplyAlign Practitioners.

There are so many gifts that come with the learning, I may not be able to know them all, but here is a short list of 7 blessings that my students have shared with me that have come into their lives since going through the training:

NOTE: I’m not taking credit for this, it’s not from anything I’ve done, but through their own interest, study, practice, and positive energy.

1. An increased sense of fulfillment and purpose: being a SimplyAlign Practitioner can provide a sense of fulfillment and purpose, as you help others to heal and transform their lives. This can give you a greater sense of satisfaction and meaning in your personal and professional life.

2. Ability to facilitate personal growth and healing: As a SimplyAlign practitioner, you’ll have the opportunity to facilitate personal growth and healing in yourself and others. This can be a transformative experience, helping you to heal old wounds and release negative patterns and beliefs.

3. Enhanced intuition and spiritual awareness: Energy work can help you to connect with your intuition and spiritual awareness, allowing you to tap into your inner wisdom and guidance. This can enhance your decision-making and help you live a more fulfilling and purposeful life.

4. A deeper sense of empathy, with ability to hold healthy boundaries: Being an energy practitioner requires you to tune in to the emotions and energy of others, which will help you develop a deeper sense of empathy and compassion. This can improve your relationships and increase your understanding of others.

5. Cleared family patterns that have been in the lineage for decades: As a SimplyAlign practitioner, you’ll have the tools to help clear your own family patterns as well as help your clients clear theirs. Breaking negative cycles encourages us to create new, more positive family narratives that involve reframing negative experiences and focusing on strengths and resilience.

6. Increased financial independence: As a SimplyAlign Practitioner, you have the potential to earn a great income doing meaningful work. This brings peace of mind, as well as more freedom and flexibility in your life to pursue additional passions and priorities.

7. Connection with a beautiful community of supportive souls: Our community of supportive practitioners is here to welcome you with open arms. Starting a healing business is a journey, and we’re all here to support each other.
If you feel inspired by any of these, I’d love to have you join us in my next

SimplyAlign Training:
April 25-28, 2023
Online!

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The 3-pay option ends Monday night at midnight, PST.

SimplyAlign Refresher

If you’ve attended in the past (CalycoHealing, SimplyHealed, or SimplyAlign), don’t miss the REFRESHER Course: March 9/10th.

It’s all online so you can join from anywhere!

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Watermelon Cake

Check out my Summer Watermelon Cake!

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Remember last January when you had goals and intentions for this year?

Well, it’s now halfway through 2022 – yep already!

Which leads me to two questions for you:

*Were any of those goals about your health/body/weight?

*And if so, how are you doing with them?

Oh, one more question…are you ready to try something else?

If you’ve been with me for awhile you’ve probably heard me talk about the science-based detox that I want to share with everyone because it’s so healing. It gets me back on track with all my health goals quickly and I LOVE the total feeling of well-being it brings my mind, body, and spirit!

If your health isn’t where you want it to be — or you want to do your best to protect it — it’s important to discover the truth about human detoxification. But, there are a lot of opinions and products out there. And not only could you lose money, but detoxing the wrong way can be harmful.

My colleague Robyn Openshaw, the GreenSmoothieGirl, has studied human detoxification for 10,000 hours (more time than she spent studying for her master’s and PhD combined), including time she spent studying with holistic doctors and clinicians around the world.

Dean-the-Dream and I have been doing this detox twice a year for

the past 4 years and it’s helped us in so very many ways.

That’s why I love to tell people about it.

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It is 26 days – but don’t worry, everything is all spelled out for you,
you will learn all sorts of new ways to help your body be its best, and
the detox Facebook group is super helpful at answering any questions and supporting you along the way. And just think, in less than a month you’ll feel clean, clear, brain fog gone, several pounds gone, inflammation gone,
and you’ll be OH SO proud of yourself!

You can watch Robyn’s Detox Secrets Video Series to see if this is a gift you’re ready to give yourself. (You can watch instantly after you opt in!)

This is what actual participants of her program experienced:

  1. Average 12.5 pound weight loss (some as high as 27 pounds!)
  2. Higher ENERGY, all day
  3. Joint pain disappearing
  4. Better digestion (MORE coming out, which is good)
  5. Disappearing autoimmune symptoms
  6. Food cravings gone
  7. Mood stabilizing (calming anxiety and depression)
  8. Skin clearing
  9. Blood sugar stabilizing
  10. Brain fog clearing, mind is sharp again

Robyn understands the SCIENCE of how proper detoxification works, and she developed a comprehensive, guided, whole-body Detox program that has changed nearly 20,000 lives, over the past 10 years.

Most people who do this detox once end up wanting to do it twice a year.

For the summer detox there’s no specific day to start. You can start whenever it works best with your schedule. I’m on day 5 today and feeling so great!

The Detox program systematically cleanses all the major body systems, in an order approved by detox experts, and with products that support and enhance the body’s natural immune function all the way.

What makes Robyn’s 26-Day Detox unique … and better than other detox programs?

  • It’s comprehensive, a WHOLE-body detox — rather than just focusing on detoxing one organ, or simply eating less or healthier food for a few days.
  • It’s based on SCIENCE — every step was created based on what is known about how the body detoxifies and how it can be aided and accelerated in that process.
  • You get to eat REAL food, and you won’t feel hungry — the foods required are real foods you can purchase at your grocery, and you eat plenty of food, and shouldn’t feel very hungry.
  • It’s GUIDED and supported — so you’ll know exactly what to do, and you’ll have support from health coaches and others doing the detox every step of the way.

You’ll hear more about the GreenSmoothieGirl Detox during Robyn’s Detox Video Series.

I hope you’ll join. I think you’ll learn information that will open your eyes to the possibility (and the truth) of detoxification done the right way.

Shine On,
Carolyn

P.S. Full transparency – I am an affiliate for this program -which tells you I really like it, because I’m very picky what I’ll endorse.

P.P.S. Check out what Kris K. of Payson, Utah, said after competing Robyn’s guided, comprehensive, science-backed GreenSmoothieGirl Detox:

“This program keeps you full, healthy, and happy! I have tried many other detox cleanses before and this one is by far the best. Although it took a lot of time to prepare the food, I made large quantities of Green Smoothies and learned to love them.

Overall, I haven’t felt this good in years! My energy increased every day I was on the program and I actually started running again. I’m happy to report that by keeping my energy high using Robyn’s recommendations, I easily kicked my caffeine & chocolate addiction. My husband lost 12 lbs. on the program and I lost 9. (We are both in our mid-50s.) Both of us LOVE the healthy education we have had over the past month and the support from our family and friends on this journey. We will continue this journey together and live to be 100 years old.”

Watch Robyn’s Detox Secrets Video Series— and then, consider joining her detoxification program (you can choose your start date and what works for you).

Fathers Day & Summer Coupon

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Since this Sunday is Father’s Day here in the US, I hope you’ll indulge me while I give my dad a shout out today. It’s been twenty years now since my dad passed, but he had such an influence on the work I’ve done for those past twenty years.

I’m often asked how I got into holistic healing. Well, I was first interested because my dad taught me that our bodies all have a perfect blueprint for health and that our thoughts have a direct influence on the health of our bodies.

I have fond memories of being at the family dinner table with Dad, a Chiropractor by profession, telling us about different patients he had helped. Without revealing names or other confidential information about the patient, he would simply relate to us what their ailment was and how much better their body was functioning after getting it aligned.

Dad had patients drive for hours to come and see him, yet he was very humble about his gifts. His amazement at the body’s capacity to heal and his pure joy at being able to help facilitate that healing was what really sparked my interest in natural healing at a young age.

When I was first starting out in my energy healing business (what is now SimplyAlign), my dad’s enthusiasm and encouragement about what I was discovering and developing meant so much to me.

We all need a person in our life who encourages us.

For me, that was my dad. Whomever that was for you, I hope you’ll take the time this weekend to acknowledge them. If they are still living reach out and tell them thank you. You’ll both be glad you did.

Speaking of enthusiasm and encouragement….I’d love to encourage you this summer, so for a limited time you can schedule a SimplyAlign session using this coupon code: SUMMER22 for 30% off the regular price.

Or you can choose a bundle of 3 sessions by clicking on the View Products/Packages link and entering this coupon code: SUMMER22B to get 30% off the regular price.

Much Love,
Carolyn

Urge to Purge

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For most of last year I had what I call “the urge to purge”. No, I don’t mean throwing up, I mean decluttering my home, purging each room, closet, cupboard, drawer. Throwing away, selling, or giving away so many, many items. I was shocked at how much STUFF we had! Our home is generally clean and tidy (except my office sometimes, eek!) and we’re certainly not hoarders, but seriously…7 bookcases? And all full of books! Or used to be, until “the great purge” that is.

My hubby, Dean the Dream and I built our house nearly 30 years ago. That’s a long time in the same house. We raised five kids in that home, I was surprised to find in some closets we still had a few prom gowns, football jerseys, some baby clothes that I just couldn’t give up back then, and a few other things. Mostly my notebooks…lots and lots of books and notebooks, mostly from my work, classes I’ve taught and classes I’ve taken, and classes I’m planning to teach.

During my “urge to purge” year, (and 2020 was the perfect year for it) I’ve become a fan of some minimalists’ podcasts and YouTube channels which have given me much inspiration! And I found myself continually coming up with metaphors about how decluttering a room is so similar to decluttering our energy systems, our mindset, and even our bodies.

One of the YouTubers I follow is minimalist, Joshua Becker. He says:

“Minimalism is the intentional promotion of the things we most value and the removal of anything that distracts us from it.”

See what I mean? Joshua’s quote is so similar to how SimplyAlign works! Except he was talking about a house, and I work with humans, lol. I help clients intentionally promote their strengths and goals, and we release the limiting beliefs that would otherwise distract them from being their best.

Consistency was key as I cleaned and organized in little bursts of energy and many times I had only small pockets of time. It’s an ongoing process and as long as I live in a home with “things” it will continue to be. Just like our energy systems, it takes consistent effort to keep on top of the negative emotional clutter.

The best part about my urge to purge…

All this minimizing began long before we even knew we’d be moving across the country! I just felt inspired to ‘get my house in order’ and I’m so glad I followed that inspired nudge, it made moving quickly so much easier!

What about you?

Have you been inspired lately to declutter (either your actual home OR emotions)?

Are you feeling nudged to begin or finish a task or goal?

If you need a little boost I’d love to help.

I have 25-min or 50-min SimplyAlign energy balancing sessions available in June.

Or purchase a 3-pack to help you sail through the summer!

“Healing may not be so much about getting better,
as about letting go of everything that isn’t you –
all of the expectations, all of the beliefs –
and becoming who you are.”
Rachel Naomi Remen

Create a SIMPLY great day!

Much love,

Carolyn Cooper

Self-Responsibility Starts with an ‘I’

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In the following three scenarios what do the people have in common?

Josie is a woman in her twenties. She still lives at home with her mother who makes all Josie’sresponsibilitiesw important decisions: how to spend her money, who to go out with, even what clothes to wear. Josie is anxious and depressed.

Matt ordered a new printer for his office. When it arrived he discovered it wasn’t compatible with his computer. “Those idiots,” he ranted, “why didn’t they tell me this was the wrong printer.”

Sally and Jerry had a big fight. Now Sally’s tossing and turning in the bedroom while Jerry beds down on the sofa. Neither one is getting any sleep and both think the other should make the first move to apologize.

If your answer was “Hey, no one is taking any personal responsibility here,” you’ve got a good eye for human behavior.

Because what Josie and Matt and Sally and Jerry all have in common is a lack of self-responsibility that leaves them dependent and victimized. They’re caught up in blaming others for their problems and waiting for somebody else to come along and make their life right. Unfortunately, they’re going to have a long wait because, in the words of self-esteem expert Nathaniel Branden, “No one is coming.”

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This is the good news! Your life is in your hands. You get to make the choices, elect the options and take the actions that come with self-responsibility. It’s through the door of self-responsibility that personal power and independence enter, often hand-in-hand, bearing gifts of confidence and self-esteem.

Be clear though, self-responsibility is not the same as feeling responsible or accepting the blame for bad things that have happened or situations that are painful. We don’t all enter the world with the same trappings, and people, events or circumstances have wreaked trauma and caused wounds from which many are recovering. Self-responsibility means that when you have worked through your grief or anger or other issues, you can ask yourself: Now what am I going to do? What options do I have?

At the other end, self-responsibility doesn’t mean becoming so self-reliant you don’t ask for help when you need it or seek others’ opinions or points of view. And it certainly doesn’t mean you have to know everything, make every decision alone or take on the world single-handedly.

Rather than a heavy burden, self-responsibility can be a source of joy. Knowing you can create the life you want by accepting responsibility for yourself is a great freedom. Even saying the words aloud can produce a feeling of power and strength. Try it.

  • I am responsible for my choices and actions
  • I am responsible for how I use my time
  • I am responsible for my behavior and communication with others
  • I am responsible for achieving my desires, dreams and wishes
  • I am responsible for the work I do and the quality I bring to that work
  • I am responsible for the values I live by and standards I set

Granted, saying the words out loud can be a little scary and intimidating as well as empowering. Accepting and acting out of self-responsibility isn’t like falling off the proverbial log; it’s not that easy. It takes practice and working through and making mistakes and falling back and finding yourself in a place you didn’t want to be again. But that’s the thing about personal growth, the place to start is where you are.

It’s great to be able to muscle test how strong or weak you are on each of these to better know where to focus your changes. Don’t know how to muscle test? Visit my store for the Learning to Muscle Test DVD which teaches you how to muscle test on yourself and others.

What has helped you to overcome selfishness and become self-responsible? Join the conversation below…

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Ten Ways to Simplify Your Life

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Ten Ways to SImplify your lifeThese days a chorus of thousands has taken up Henry David Thoreau’s advice to “Simplify, simplify.” And for good reason. Few among us would deny our lives are too complicated and filled with too much stress.

Simplicity is about eliminating clutter – from your mind, your home, your relationships and your lifestyle. Following are ten ways to begin.

1. Get a clear idea of what you want your life to look like. This picture will help you discover what you must eliminate.

2. Let go of projects, roles or self-imposed obligations that take up time and keep you away from what you really want.

3. Say ‘No’ to what you don’t want in your life. Say Yes to what you do want.

4. Schedule “break” days for yourself where you don’t do anything but what you really want. Don’t cancel them.

5. Make a “to do” day and get all those chores and errands done in a single day.

6. Create space. File away or toss out; give away, sell or trade.

7. Make and return phone calls only during certain hours.

8. Shop only when you have to. Question your purchases. Consuming less is good for the planet, too.

9. Ask for and accept help. Delegate chores. Hire work done when possible.

10. Remember to breathe, to ground yourself and be physically present.

Simplifying means making choices that will improve the quality of your life.

*Bonus* A gratitude list will help you discover what really matters to you. Let’s start a list together! Join the conversation down below in the comments section! I’m looking forward to seeing what you are grateful for!

 

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Energy Work Can Improve Relationships

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In this video, Jolene Victor of Victory Energy Wellness joins me to talk about her experience as a SimplyHealed PractitionerTM and how it has improved her relationships with her family members.

Find out more about taking the SimplyHealed™ training here.

How to Create A Balanced Relationship

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How to Create A Balanced RelationshipWhether they are married, in a relationship or single – most people would say they want to have a balanced relationship with their significant other.  But what does a balanced relationship look like and how do you maintain it?

The fact is, we all relate to people in different ways: Dependently (or codependently), Independently and Interdependently.

Dependent/codependent:
In these relationships one person sets aside his or her personal welfare to maintain the relationship. This dynamic implies that the codependent person in the relationship can’t survive independently of the other person.

Independent:
In this configuration, the couple lives mostly separate lives. For example, they have different friends, are rarely together and make decisions autonomously. They may live separately as well and they are fine with that arrangement.

Interdependent:
In this type of relationship, two people are intimate with one another but don’t compromise or sacrifice themselves or their values. This dynamic is about collaboration and cooperation. Each person is self-reliant (physically, emotionally, financially, etc.) and, simultaneously, responsible to the other.

While it’s possible to find happiness, at least temporarily, in all three types of relationships, the Interdependent relationship is generally considered the model for a balanced relationship.

What do you do if you don’t consider your relationship to be balanced? With a little information and effort it’s possible to attain a balanced relationship.

1. Find Inner Balance by:
• Focusing on what you can control (your thoughts, feelings and actions) not what you can’t (others’ thoughts, feelings and actions).
• Noticing how you feel and, as clearly and calmly as you can, communicating those feelings.
• Recognizing and owning your issues, which will help you recognize your partner’s as well. You can be empathic and supportive without having to “fix” everything.

2. Create and Maintain a Balanced Relationship by:
• Staying present and empathic even when your partner is upset.
• Stepping back from conflicts to avoid escalation, assess the problem and make positive changes.
• Reframing the actions/reactions of your partner. For example, seeing a loved one as anxious and fearful, instead of cruel and controlling, paves the way for a more sympathetic, less confrontational approach.
• Being a good listener and focusing on the only person you can change—yourself.

3. Recognize and change old emotional patterns and blocked energetic pathways by:
• Writing down negative feelings that manifest themselves throughout your day. Then rewrite them in a positive light.
• Become aware of “triggers” that influence your mood. Many times just the awareness will lead to your ability to not be influenced by them – putting you in control.
• Write down up to 10 positive affirmations you would like to see manifested in your relationship and post them where you will see and read them often (ie. Bathroom mirror, near your computer screen, etc.)

Keep in mind that balance, like a relationship, is dynamic not static. It’s impossible to keep balance 100% of the time in every situation. Even a balanced relationship can, at times, feel like more work than play.

Remember, sometimes the focus will be more on you, other times more on your partner, and still other times when what’s best for “us” needs the focus rather than either individual.

Like a wave, there is an ebb and flow to relationships. But once we are aware of what balanced relationships look like we can better manage that dynamic.

Would you like to pull out those threads of negative emotional patterns and release blocked energy to allow your Spirit to be more open to and/or attract the relationship you desire?

This month I am having a group phone session focusing on Romantic Relationships. For those of you in a relationship this call will be focused on your relationship with your partner. If you are single we will also be releasing issues blocking you from attracting your ideal mate. So really, this call is for everyone!

Here’s what we’ll be working on:
• Releasing negative dependent/co-dependent/independent false beliefs.
• Shifting thought patterns to accept and attract an interdependent relationship.
• Instilling positive affirmations to support your raised energetic attractiveness for the relationship you desire.

To learn more about group phone sessions and to sign-up, go here.

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