When Your Buttons Get Pushed, How Well Do You Manage?
When you have an automatic, negative response to something, this often indicates a hypersensitivity that’s referred to as “getting your buttons pushed.” Usually these sensitivities have developed due to hurtful childhood experiences, such as repeatedly being criticized, rejected or feeling controlled.
For example, if your parents were very controlling, when someone tells you to do something you may resist—often subconsciously. Sometimes these sensitivities stem from generational fears we’ve inherited.
Answer the following two sets of questions, true or false, to discover how well you manage when you feel like your buttons are being pushed.
1. When my buttons get pushed, I tend to shut down and withdraw.
2. When someone hurts me—even when I know it was unintentional—I blame myself for the situation.
3. When I feel offended by something someone said or did I let them know, often by lashing out.
4. I hate it when someone tells me I’m “too sensitive.”
5. When someone says or does something that triggers the feelings connected to an old emotional pain, it takes me a long time to let go of it and feel centered again. I often carry a resentment.
6. Sometimes I have no idea why I do what I do—I just can’t control myself.
7. Once someone pushes my buttons, that’s it—my wall goes up and stays up. I feel like a powerless little kid.
1. When old feelings are triggered by something in the present, I take a deep breath, acknowledge that old feelings have been activated, get myself to a safe and comfortable environment and seek the support I need.
2. Rather than feeling victimized and blaming someone for pushing my buttons, I, again, take a deep breath, and then take an honest look at myself to see what I can learn from the situation.
3. I’ve worked to uncover old, painful issues so that I can release what was triggered and not feel at the mercy of my emotional response.
4. When I feel triggered, I understand that it usually has nothing to do with the person who pushed my buttons.
5. I’m familiar with my most common “buttons”; I recognize them more quickly now and am less reactive.
6. When my buttons do get pushed now, I am able to see the unresolved issues needing my attention.
7. I feel like an empowered adult when I can courageously look at my emotional triggers and work through them.
If you answered TRUE to any in Set 1, you probably recognize there are some things you could let go of to help you be more congruent with your best self.
If you answered TRUE more often in Set 1 and FALSE more often in Set 2 I’d love to help you experience life without dragging those triggers around with you any longer.
If you answered FALSE more often in Set 1 and TRUE more often in Set 2, yay you! You’ve obviously done the work to recognize your unresolved issues and are working through them. SimplyHealed is truly the fastest, most thorough, and most graceful way I know to do that.
See, it’s not about who’s pushing your buttons and why.
The questions I look at are:
- Where did those buttons come from?
- Why are you carrying them?
- And most importantly, are you now willing to let them go?
Yes, it is possible to be free of old, buried (and sometimes not-so-buried) negative emotions that cause you to “take” offense even when none is given.
I absolutely love what I do because every day I get the privilege of helping people release the heaviness that’s come from their life situations so they can live a life they are happy living!
If there are areas in your life where you wish you were stronger and more confident, or if you know you have triggers you’d like to release so you can live the life you were born to, here are some options of how I can help:
- Private 50-min. phone or Skype session. Let’s you and I get to the root and clear it.
- Join my Group Call on the topic of Forgiveness on April 19th @ 1pm MT. Sometimes finding peace is just a matter of forgiving ourselves and others.
- My online mini-course: Empowered You: Self Worth at the Core. This course will help you get connected to your true, confident, authentic self.
- OR you may want to attend a SimplyHealed Training so you’ll be able to easily clear triggers for yourself anytime you want to! Also be able to work on family, friends, or build a business doing this powerful work. Upcoming courses in Noosa, Australia and St. George, Utah
Stay tuned next month for Part Two of this Quiz and learn more about letting go and moving on to a more positive life that you love!
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